Dating long distance in college
"It's complicated to reconcile the old and the new.
When you've had the most magical high school relationship or summer fling, the idea of separating to attend your respective colleges can feel grim. Or worse—what if you go strong until Thanksgiving only to become one of the many couples who part ways during their first school break?!
If you're started to have feelings for another person or things are changing, be honest about that."But try not to over-share."It can be hurtful to be over-honest," says Birndorf.
"I call it truth dumping when you share everything, like saying you have a crush on someone else.
It's really hard to choose the awkwardness and the insecurity of not having a lot of friends at your new school over being with someone who's familiar to you."Prioritize schoolwork."Check in with yourself and see what your comfort level is," says Kirsch.
"If you plan a visit on a specific date and you get a big assignment that you don't think you can handle, be clear with your partner.
Just don't leave the conversation until a day before the trip!
"These could be pictures of you and your college roommate, or your college campus. You can both cook and pretend it's as if you're actually having a date together.
Your partner will feel part of your life when you share your day-to-day happenings."Be open and honest."Honesty is important because this is somebody you love and feel strongly about, and you don't want to hurt your partner," says Catherine Birndorf, a women's mental health expert who co-authored .