5 steps to dating
Don’t get pulled into any conversations about the relationship or any debates about what went wrong, whose fault it was, or anything like that. This isn’t about playing games or giving him the silent treatment.
It’s about ensuring that you are mentally and emotionally ready before engaging in any conversations about your relationship with your ex. The no contact rule is to allow you the time you need to work on yourself, build up your self-esteem, and realize that you can live without your ex and find happiness in your own life.
Engaging him beyond that will only suck you back into the cycle of drama or of constantly thinking of him. At this stage, you want to focus on yourself, your mental peace, and getting the relationship you want.
Your fears, insecurities, negative emotions, and wishful thinking will be your biggest obstacle to succeeding here.
These aren’t necessarily the most long-lasting relationships and there’s nothing to say that this isn’t an attempt to get your attention or be vindictive.
Yes, it is also highly likely that this step will make him miss you, but again, that’s not the focus.
Your focus should be on getting to the best possible headspace and having the best possible mindset so you are your best possible self.
It really is about and is not a means to get him back, although that is often a result.
If you are focused on truly being happy in your own life, what your ex is doing won’t have much of an impact on you.